This was a HUGE issue in my first marriage. It’s when I got my very first vibrator. Gods that thing was awful lol It was solid plastic and hard as hell. But my first girlfriend gave it to me. She sold toys through Pleasure Company. It was bigger than my husband at the time (which was a HUGE problem) and leopard patterned. That thing had zero give lol
This was in the 90s, so I’m sure you remember there wasn’t much in the way of choices back then.
I remember bringing it home from meeting with her and being so excited to show him. Then I remember him threatening to throw it in the garbage. I ended up having to hide it because he was so threatened by it.