Amazing article, Octavia. The best point you made is communication. Although I can’t see any reason for consistently not wanting to go down on your woman (casual or longterm partner), when it’s something your partner needs in order to get off, you either do it or you step aside for someone who will.

Woo this comment before mine is really difficult not to address directly…so it’s okay for him not to perform oral because he may get HPV or throat cancer, but it’s okay for you to?!

Jaysus H Christ.

I would hope the conversation about STI testing is had long before any type of sex happens, not just oral!!!

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