Kwame,

Thank you for reading and taking the time to respond so thoughtfully.

I believe you’ve misunderstood me. My problem has absolutely nothing to do with him being bi. On the contrary, I made it abundantly clear how much I loved that he was.

My issue is deceit. Yes, I understand it’s hard to be out. Been there. But when you’re willingly putting others at risk, that’s an issue. I don’t care what gender you are. Women can get STI’s by having unprotected sex too. Had it been a girlfriend who behaved this way, I would have the same reaction.

I can’t protect myself against what I don’t Know about. He and I were supposed to be in a committed relationship where no one else was involved. We made choices together about protection based on that.

I don’t think it’s Wrong to expect to be told if I’m being put at risk, any more than he had the same right.

I will always defend a persons right to be who they are. But what I can’t abide is deceit. Period.

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