"It seems insane to me that my doctors never addressed these issues with me — it’s such a huge part of life."

It is insane. Because ask any man who has been prescribed anti-depressants, and I'm positive they'll tell you this was discussed.

My last husband was on a ridiculous cocktail of psych meds (prescribed through the VA) and each and every one of them had a warning about sexual dysfunction. His doctor brought it up before he ever took the first pill and told him he'd happily prescribe Viagra if he wanted.

He was fucking 22 years old.

His doctor also had no issue listening to him complain about the side effects and worked with him to get the cocktail tailored to his needs.

I've NEVER experienced that!!

So, I just don't take them.

I either end up with zero libido or I have zero feelings. Abilify makes me a drone. I literally don't care if the sky falls. But I also know I should be feeling something, and that's disconcerting.

I'm thankful I can take Valium when the anxiety gets the worst. But that's really the only thing.


Written by

Sex educator working toward a more sex positive world, one word at a time. Contact: demeterdelune@gmail.com YouTube: bit.ly/3n5LpC5

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store