I believe I’m at a loss for words for the first time.
I’m not one to promote infidelity Willy nilly, but in your case, I would damn sure understand. Once again, I could not even remotely imagine being with someone long term who i am so sexually incompatible with, regardless of how good everything else is.
Because in the long run, I see that incompatibility flowing over into the rest of the relationship. A person can only go so long without having their needs met.
A friend of mine is in a similar situation, and has been seeing other people on the side for years (sexually)
It has kept their relationship going.
I truly wish you the best my friend.