First, I should have said this before. I absolutely love your screen name. One of my new favorite book series features a journalist, who all her friends have nicknamed Lois Lane, so your take on Clark Kent is apropro to what I’m currently reading.

Second, sparking conversation is exactly what I’m here to do. You’re the second gentleman I’ve sparked lovely conversation with in as many days and it truly makes my heart soar.

Sadly, I believe most men have anxiety about growing vs showing. I have been with a handful of gentlemen who show, and I was actually surprised, considering the majority of my experience has been growers.

Honestly, the only time (other than ONCE) I’ve ever kicked someone out of bed for their size, was because of being too large (and being a jerk about it).

I think the urban legend of the Size Queen is just that, a legend. Sure, there are women who enjoy and possibly prefer a larger phallus. And good on them, I don’t judge. Personally, I think it’s a novelty thing. Either that, or they’ve never had good experiences in bed, so they’re just looking for someone to ‘fill them up’ in an effort to have an orgasm.

I could be wrong, but that’s my opinion.

The fact that you listen is so important. I always told my older children when they were growing up, you were given one mouth and two ears for a reason, listen twice as much as you talk!

Thank you for the conversation, I’ve really enjoyed it and I’m always here to listen!

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