Excellent piece, my friend.
I understand why Yael's piece got so much blowback. Because people didn't fucking read it, they skimmed or based their comments on the title alone. It's a never ending battle for sure.
Personally, I think it's up to the individual whether they want to use lube or not. I like it sometimes, especially when masturbating. I may not have a lot of time due to family constraints, so I might have to get things going a little faster than my body is willing to. The mind is engaged, the body takes a bit longer.
Obviously, anal requires lubricant since the anus isn't self lubricating.
And honestly, as I get older I find natural lubrication may not be present when I need it to be. It sucks, but it's a fact of life.
I don't judge either side.