As you well know, since we’re of the same generation, this was a big thing when I was in high school.
However, males and females seemed to be of two schools of thought.
Boys, in an attempt to get girls to do what they wanted i.e. give head, would gladly tell you oral didn’t count.
But when other girls found out you had in fact given head, you had sex and were a whore.
It baffles me that this has become somewhat normal in teenage culture now (though part of me wants to cheer and say yay! good for you, doing what you want and not giving a fuck about what society says!), though the conversations about consent and being safe still need to be had, a lot.
Thank you so much for writing this, your thoughts and in depth perceptions of the topic are spot on as always ❤