What I’m up to and who I am, updated May 24, 2021

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My name is Demeter DeLune and I’ve been writing stories my entire life. Welcome to my page. I hope you find at least one story you can connect with. About a year ago, I began this journey on Medium, sharing my deepest, darkest secrets in story form, and sexual education pieces.

In this life, I’ve been a Professional Dominatrix, a phone sex operator, an insurance agent, a chemist, and a counselor.

Now, I’m a freelance writer, editor, and sex educator.

Writing under a pseudonym has its advantages. This is a place I can express myself, tell stories, share erotica, or…


The ladies shouldn’t have all the fun when it comes to enhancements!

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Around 32,000 years ago, siltstone dildos were used as a sex toy, making them the world’s oldest known sex toys. Rumor has it, Cleopatra was known for pleasuring herself with a papyrus box full of live bees, around 51 BC. First vibrator? French and Spanish sailors took rubber sleeves out to sea with them; they called them “Ladies of the Journey”, making them the first known male-specific sex toys. 1

Love them or hate them, sex toys are here to stay. Considering they’ve been around for centuries, you’d think we’d be used to them by now. Yet surprisingly, the topic…


Life is full of surprises and lessons.

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On Sunday, I turn 44 years old. I’ll be honest with you, I never thought I would make it this far. Something in my screwy childhood brain told me I wouldn’t live longer than my Dad, who died by suicide at the age of 43. I’m sure there’s a psychological teaching moment in there somewhere. And I’ll admit, this past year has been one of the hardest I’ve lived so far. It’s almost as if the universe decided to test my childhood theory and see just what I could handle in this 43rd…


The first time I had sex was how I wanted it and it didn’t include a relationship.

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Purity culture would have us believe if our first sexual experience isn’t something sacred between a cis-hetero married couple, it’s dirty and wrong. Thankfully, even though our society still condemns women for being sexually open, the majority don’t tend toward this repressed way of thinking. Still, there’s little in the way of pleasure education going around, especially for younger people whose hormones are raging and thinking about having sex for the first time.

Regardless of how old you were (or will be) when you first engage in sexual activity, there’s an expectation it should be something special, sacred even. I’m…


I got the best end of the deal.

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When you’re in an open or polyamorous relationship, you can always hope everyone will get along, even if they’re not sleeping together. That’s difficult to make happen when one partner isn’t honest with everyone involved. Communication, trust, and honesty are the backbones of any relationship, but none more than one that’s not monogamous.

My second husband and I were in an open relationship from the very beginning. He was already dating a couple of other women when we met. I knew about everyone, and as far as I knew, they all knew about me. We became primary to one another…


Listening is just as important as what you have to say.

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We need to talk. Those can be four of the scariest words to hear or read, especially from someone you’re in a relationship with. But they don’t have to be, when you know you and your partner have awesome communication skills. It takes time and effort to hone these skills, and one of the best places to do so in the midst of a difficult conversation.

Why Have Difficult Conversations?

Showing up imperfectly is better than not showing up at all. Although you may think avoiding a difficult conversation means you’ll be more comfortable, in the long run, the opposite is true. The longer…


If you’ve been thinking of adding a little kink to your play, these ideas can get you started.

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You don’t have to be in a D/s relationship to enjoy Dominant and submissive play. Over the years, I’ve found that a lot of couples are hesitant to try this type of role play because they don’t desire the level of power exchange required for a D/s relationship. What I’ve told most of them is, there’s nothing wrong with engaging in power play every once in awhile, even if it’s just to spice things up. …


Just because someone identifies as submissive doesn’t mean they aren’t passive aggressive.

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True strength lies in submission which permits one to dedicate his life, through devotion, to something beyond himself. — Henry Miller

Anyone who is involved in a D/s relationship will tell you the submissive holds the majority of the power. Though that seems counterintuitive, it makes perfect sense in reality. The submissive person hands over control of their body and mind to their Dominant, willingly, because of the bond they share and trust that’s been earned. …


Including our review of Sportsheet’s Hog Tie and Cuff Set

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The art of Shibari is intricate and beautiful. It takes time and education to become proficient in its application and should never be entered into lightly, whether you’re a rope top or bottom. If bondage sounds like something you and your partner would like to try, starting with one of the most difficult ways to engage in it probably isn’t the best idea. Simple is better, and adding a little bondage to your bedroom doesn’t have to be hard.

3 Ways to Add Bondage to Your Relationship

Use what you have — Most of us have neck ties, scarves, or scraps of cloth somewhere in our homes. If…


I couldn’t tell you mine, even if I wanted to. And I don’t want to.

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When I was a teenager, I kept a detailed journal of my sexual escapades. Not unlike what I do now, except, I named names and kept up with numbers. It didn’t take long for me to realize a few things. One being, sheer numbers had nothing to do with the amount of pleasure I got out of a situation. Whether it was penis size or how many lovers I took, neither of those things contributed to what I was really after — a great roll in the hay.

I remember talking to friends about our experiences and everyone being so…

Demeter Delune

I’m an educator who loves to talk about sexuality, relationships, and give advice. Let’s work together demeterdelune@gmail.com

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