What I’m up to and who I am, updated May 24, 2021

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My name is Demeter DeLune and I’ve been writing stories my entire life. Welcome to my page. I hope you find at least one story you can connect with. About a year ago, I began this journey on Medium, sharing my deepest, darkest secrets in story form, and sexual education pieces.

In this life, I’ve been a Professional Dominatrix, a phone sex operator, an insurance agent, a chemist, and a counselor.

Now, I’m a freelance writer, editor, and sex educator.

Writing under a pseudonym has its advantages. This is a place I can express myself, tell stories, share erotica, or…


The ladies shouldn’t have all the fun when it comes to enhancements!

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Around 32,000 years ago, siltstone dildos were used as a sex toy, making them the world’s oldest known sex toys. Rumor has it, Cleopatra was known for pleasuring herself with a papyrus box full of live bees, around 51 BC. First vibrator? French and Spanish sailors took rubber sleeves out to sea with them; they called them “Ladies of the Journey”, making them the first known male-specific sex toys. 1

Love them or hate them, sex toys are here to stay. Considering they’ve been around for centuries, you’d think we’d be used to them by now. Yet surprisingly, the topic…


If you want to open your relationship, there’s work to do beforehand

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Polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, open relationship; These are all ways of describing being non-monogamous. Depending on your relationship and beliefs, any of these choices can be a possibility. Before you embark on this journey, there are questions you need to ask yourself. Most importantly, you need to answer them honestly in order to get a better idea of whether this lifestyle is right for you.

9 questions to ask yourself about ethical non-monogamy

  1. What are my values?

Delving into ethical non-monogamy goes against a tradition of monogamous culture. It can be difficult internally and externally. Do your values line up with ethical non-monogamy? It’s okay if the relationships in…


When incognito wasn’t just a browser setting.

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In today’s world, it seems strange to think of meeting someone for casual sex without employing the internet in some way. But it hasn’t always been dating apps and websites. For me, since I didn’t grow up with technology being such a huge part of my dating experience, I can remember my first NSFW internet hookup like it was yesterday.

I spent about a year exploring my wilder side in my late twenties. After an almost ten year, suffocating marriage, I wanted to see what the world had to offer. …


If a traditional D/s relationship seems a bit much for you but parts of it appeal, keep reading.

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When I first began learning about D/s relationships, my experience was limited to research of a clinical type. I wanted to learn more about the different dynamics without exposing myself to them in real life until I learned more. My self-education was business research, as I was working towards becoming a Professional Dominatrix. But I would be lying if I said that’s all it was. The more I read, the more I realized parts of this lifestyle were very appealing to me on a personal level. At first, I was confused, because I wasn’t sure how I could justify the…


If your libidos aren’t matching, ignoring the problem won’t fix it.

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We’ve heard it said many times, there’s not much worse than being with someone who makes you feel lonely; I would actually rather be alone. At least then, it’s by choice, not something beyond my control. My last husband was very good at making me feel as if I didn’t exist, especially when it came to our relationship in the bedroom.

When we first began dating, our sex life was amazing. We met through the man I was involved with, Daniel, who was a friend of his. I was in an open relationship, free to engage with others as long…


Depending on your body and desires, quite, actually.

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When it comes to butt plugs, comfort is important. Even if you’re training up to larger toys, you don’t want something that hurts. I had never tried a glass plug before Betty’s sent me this one. I’ve own glass toys for vaginal use in the past and enjoyed the ability to control the temperature of them and the ease of cleaning. So, why not?

Every plug I’ve used in the past has been very flexible and had a good bit of squish to it. …


All bodies are different, so finding what you need means finding a reviewer similar to you.

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Years before I began reviewing sex toys and sexual wellness products, I was first a consumer. And I still am. These items, when purchased from high quality sellers, can get expensive, so doing your research ahead of purchasing is important. There’s not much worse than spending a hundred bucks or more on something that doesn’t fit your body. If we were talking about clothing, it wouldn’t be a huge deal. Most things we buy, we have the ability to return if it doesn’t work out. Not so much with sex toys. In almost every case, once…


We’ve been locked down for over a year and things may feel a little stale.

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A global pandemic isn’t typically something to get excited about, but I’ll admit, I was a little thrilled at the prospect of having to stay home with my husband. I thought, oh boy, we’ll get some much-needed time together, re-connect, and hopefully, spend some quality time in the bedroom. But like a lot of people, the stress of the pandemic itself, worrying about our health, and day-to-day life made it to where relaxing and enjoying our time with loved ones wasn’t exactly easy.

As the world begins to open up again, it’s time to look inward as well and decide…


Review of the 3Some Prostate Massager

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There aren’t a lot of male specific toys on the market, but that’s changing. Gone are the days where the only thing you could get was a pocket pussy or cock rings. I remember one of my first trips to a sex shop, in NYC. It was an experience like nothing I had ever dreamed of, mostly because, I had no idea what to expect from a sex shop. It didn’t disappoint when it came to the minimal expectations I had in my mind. There were dirty movies galore, complete with booths in the back for viewing. I don’t remember…

Demeter deLune

Sex educator working toward a more sex positive world, one word at a time. Contact: demeterdelune@gmail.com YouTube: bit.ly/3n5LpC5

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